Thanks Lauren. As always, honest and open, thoughtful and engaging. I struggle with some aspects of attachment theory and research. The approach has a lot of "common sense - why did they need an experiment to prove it?". It is very relevant in all sorts of ways. But... some of the early research is there on video platforms and I wonder if the findings relate to the pre-determined ideas of the researcher since it has not been replicated. Then you get the "you can have a perfect child if you are a perfect mother managing the attachment with your infant perfectly" books and videos. (That is how I found the early videos by the parenting gurus. Rant over) A good enough mother with a good enough infant (Winnicott) is what I hope for. Then, I wonder how neurodiversity plays its parts with this. I wonder if my difficulties with knowing which is 'my' style is related to my own place on ' the spectrum'. Go well, and may you and the family thrive.
Oh! I really like this comment Jonathan! And all my fingers are crossed that the good enough mother with a good enough infant model is what I have to offer my kids' futures!
Thanks Lauren. As always, honest and open, thoughtful and engaging. I struggle with some aspects of attachment theory and research. The approach has a lot of "common sense - why did they need an experiment to prove it?". It is very relevant in all sorts of ways. But... some of the early research is there on video platforms and I wonder if the findings relate to the pre-determined ideas of the researcher since it has not been replicated. Then you get the "you can have a perfect child if you are a perfect mother managing the attachment with your infant perfectly" books and videos. (That is how I found the early videos by the parenting gurus. Rant over) A good enough mother with a good enough infant (Winnicott) is what I hope for. Then, I wonder how neurodiversity plays its parts with this. I wonder if my difficulties with knowing which is 'my' style is related to my own place on ' the spectrum'. Go well, and may you and the family thrive.
Oh! I really like this comment Jonathan! And all my fingers are crossed that the good enough mother with a good enough infant model is what I have to offer my kids' futures!